Let’s talk about why we have issues talking about grief and some of the things we shouldn’t say to a grieving colleague or friend.
Lastly, let’s talk about how we can help out our friends by:
- Being Present
Let them be in pain. Let them be sad. Some things can’t be fixed; they can only be carried.
- Following Up
They are likely to be suffering for a long time to come. Continue to check in on your friends and colleagues.
- Not Avoiding The Issue
Don’t pretend like it didn’t happen! Acknowlede their pain. Their life likely sucks right now,
- Be Specific
Get specific with your offers of help. Avoid saying things like “Let me know if their’s anything I can do”. That doesn’t help.
When we’re grieving, we often lack a sense of concentration and decision making. Don’t wait for them to ask, because they probably won’t. Suggest something like: Mow their lawn, bring them something to eat, offer to babysit, or offer to handle a difficult client at work.
Kevin Ringstaff is a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, Pet Loss Grief Counselor, Pet Chaplain, and Entrepreneur who writes and speaks about grief to anyone who will listen. If you like this video, check out my other projects.